Benjamin (Matt Damon) talking to his son Dylan (Colin Ford) in the 2011 movie We Bought a Zoo.
Later in the movie we learn that the “20 seconds of insane courage” Benjamin is referring to is the time he met Dylan’s mom:
He saw her sitting in a restaurant; she was the most beautiful woman he’d ever seen. He didn’t know what to do because he had never talked to a stranger like that before, but he figured all he needed was twenty seconds. He set the timer on his watch. He went into the restaurant, and almost lost his nerve now that he was close enough to touch her - but he still had 15 seconds of bravery left. He said, “Excuse me” and she turned to him. He said to her, “Why would a woman who looks like you ever talk to a man like me?” But she smiled and said, “Why not?” (recap via.)
This is how we all gotta live!
I wrote a book about my career called You Gotta Have Balls, but the truth is, it’s not like you need them 24/7, for years upon years.
Like Benjamin explains, you just need that short burst of “embarrassing bravery” once in a while, at the key moments.
Whether you want to:
* Approach a stranger you want to meet * Make a cold sales call * Initiate a difficult conversation * Begin a daunting project * Learn a new skill * Do anything you’re afraid of
Starting these things is the tough part; once you’re in them, they might still prove difficult, but the fear melts away. And that makes all the difference.
It’s a relief to know we don’t all have to be Michael Jordans to attain the life we want.
We don’t have to be ready to take the game-winning shot every single night.
We just need to be willing to take it once in a while, at strategic times.
Can you do that for yourself?
Can you muster 20 seconds of insane courage when you need it?
A few years ago, Kevin Hall and I discussed some his most though-provoking ideas in my 8 Questions series and recently, he came to Steiner Sports to expound some of his wisdom. I lean on Kevin for inspiration and I'm sure you'll understand why!