Benjamin (Matt Damon) talking to his son Dylan (Colin Ford) in the 2011 movie We Bought a Zoo.
Later in the movie we learn that the “20 seconds of insane courage” Benjamin is referring to is the time he met Dylan’s mom:
He saw her sitting in a restaurant; she was the most beautiful woman he’d ever seen. He didn’t know what to do because he had never talked to a stranger like that before, but he figured all he needed was twenty seconds. He set the timer on his watch. He went into the restaurant, and almost lost his nerve now that he was close enough to touch her - but he still had 15 seconds of bravery left. He said, “Excuse me” and she turned to him. He said to her, “Why would a woman who looks like you ever talk to a man like me?” But she smiled and said, “Why not?”
This is how we all gotta live!
Like Benjamin explains, you just need that short burst of “embarrassing bravery” once in a while, at the key moments.
Whether you want to:
* Approach a stranger you want to meet
* Make a cold sales call
* Initiate a difficult conversation
* Begin a daunting project
* Learn a new skill
* Do anything you’re afraid of
I worked in a kitchen when I was growing up, 80-90 hours a week, at Camp Sussex. There’s a lot of opportunities like this. Is that work nothing?
When did you do something for the first time and how great was the feeling?