When You Accuse, You Excuse

January 13, 2017

When You Accuse, You Excuse

When you accuse, you excuse. Unfortunately, that’s a scenario that never works.

"If you burn your neighbor's house down, it doesn't make your house look any better." -Lou Holtz

A lot of times when things are not going the way you want—whether it be playing time on a team, your compensation, or a promotion—you accuse your coach, your boss, your spouse. You say to yourself, “My wife, she doesn’t get it,” “My boss is just not a good guy,” or, “My company just doesn’t get it.”

You accuse so that you can excuse the fact that maybe it’s not your fault or maybe u just can’t handle it or you’re not doing the job necessary. Or, maybe there’s more that needs to be done that you’re not getting. It’s not if you got paid more that you should come to work with a better attitude or if you got more playing time that you would work harder in practice. This mentality makes things worse. But, are you just trying to get your ego off the hook? 

The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it.

The question that you want to ask yourself is, “Am I doing my best work?” 

We are all better at inflicting pain than acknowledging pain. Fall, learn, get up, do it again. When in the midst of struggle we make up stories. When you fall the stories need to be really accurate and true. Then, you can learn from them and move on to bigger and better things.




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